Every person has there own way to keep themselves happy. But not all of those happiness are real. As some may come from bad habits. For example, teasing others or trash talking. Then how do we achieve true happiness? By earning through fun yet productive habits. What are these productive habits? I'll tell you some that "is" and "isn't".
Keys to Happiness
1. Reading
Many people doesn't enjoy reading much. But that can depend on what they're reading. In truth, I can get bored reading my school text books. When reading novels, I could get really excited or motivated. People's interest varies so find books with topics that you like.
Why does reading bring happiness? Because it allows your imagination to roam free. We illustrate what we read in our minds. Just like a theater, our very own mind theater. Our creativity will also develop from imagining. All we need to do is imagine what we read.
2. Socialize
Interact with other people. I can only imagine how lonely a life would be when lived alone. Make friends to share your happiness with. Try meeting new people, deepen your bonds with friends. Then you'll notice, how great it feels to share joy and sadness with other people.
3. Religion
Surely, not everyone believes in God. But, having to know someone is watching over you is a great feeling. God gives us faith, so we don't give up when things get tough.
I've heard once that an atheist Japanese businessman commited suicide after his company got bankrupt. What a sad thought, to end your life after experiencing failure. Giving up, in trade with life. I've always wondered if this is because he had no one else to turn to in his crisis.
It's up to you to believe in this keys. But before you decide, please give these keys a shot. At least try them then see, how truly happy you can be.
The Greatest Motivator
Have you ever heard of the greatest motivator?
Do you want to know him?
Want to get advice from him?
Don't be surprised, the greatest motivator doesn't say much. When you meet him, you have to talk more. What will the motivator do is just listen and show. You are never forced to hear him, but if you never ask him, you will not get anything.
Who is this greatest motivator?
His name is Failure.
Yes, failure is the greatest motivator. Many people have felt his touch. Many successful people have learned a lot from him.
Without meeting failure, Thomas Edison would not have created the light bulb and Colonel Sanders would be a retired soldier who will soon be forgotten.
Why can failure be the greatest motivator?
Because when someone meets failure, the only most logical thing to do is to get up. Do you know why motivational books or motivational seminars sell everywhere? Because lots of people fail. However, do you know why not all people who attended a seminar or read the books became successful? Because some of them has not experienced failure. And those who have not failed, which is still in the comfort zone, hasn't put their best ability.
On the other hand, there are people who actually fall deeper after consecutive failures. This goes back to each individual. This means that the choice to rise or sink remains in our hands. And if many people has successfully used the knowledge gained from failure, why haven't you?
(Source: Hands of God, Spirit Motivator)
Do you want to know him?
Want to get advice from him?
Don't be surprised, the greatest motivator doesn't say much. When you meet him, you have to talk more. What will the motivator do is just listen and show. You are never forced to hear him, but if you never ask him, you will not get anything.
Who is this greatest motivator?
His name is Failure.
Yes, failure is the greatest motivator. Many people have felt his touch. Many successful people have learned a lot from him.
Without meeting failure, Thomas Edison would not have created the light bulb and Colonel Sanders would be a retired soldier who will soon be forgotten.
Why can failure be the greatest motivator?
Because when someone meets failure, the only most logical thing to do is to get up. Do you know why motivational books or motivational seminars sell everywhere? Because lots of people fail. However, do you know why not all people who attended a seminar or read the books became successful? Because some of them has not experienced failure. And those who have not failed, which is still in the comfort zone, hasn't put their best ability.
On the other hand, there are people who actually fall deeper after consecutive failures. This goes back to each individual. This means that the choice to rise or sink remains in our hands. And if many people has successfully used the knowledge gained from failure, why haven't you?
(Source: Hands of God, Spirit Motivator)
The Victor
Poet: C.W. Longenecker
If you think you are beaten, you are.
If you think you dare not, you don’t
If you like to win but think you can’t,
It’s almost a cinch you won’t.
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost.
For out in the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you are outclassed, you are.
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win the prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man.
But sooner or later, the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.
(www.wow4u.com)
AQ 3 - LEAD
In my previous post about Adversity Quotinet, I've explained CORE. Which are keys in measuring our AQ. Now I'm going to explain about LEAD. Which are techniques of how to improve our AQ.
L - Listen
Hear your own response when experiencing CORE. Learn and improve yourselves from past mistakes. Strengthen your weaknesses so you can overcome the mistake.
E - Explore
Find out problems where you feel responsible, but able to improve. Prioritize on improving those, especially the more important factors.
A - Analyze
Analyze the problem to counter negative thoughts. We need to correct our way of thinking into something positive. Find possibilities and opportunities in these times so we can achieve a higher goal.
D - Do
You can't achieve anything without doing. Buy you can't do anything without listening, exploring, or analyzing the situation first. After you can optimize the entire LEAD, success will be in your grasp. Which also means that your AQ has improved.
L - Listen
Hear your own response when experiencing CORE. Learn and improve yourselves from past mistakes. Strengthen your weaknesses so you can overcome the mistake.
E - Explore
Find out problems where you feel responsible, but able to improve. Prioritize on improving those, especially the more important factors.
A - Analyze
Analyze the problem to counter negative thoughts. We need to correct our way of thinking into something positive. Find possibilities and opportunities in these times so we can achieve a higher goal.
D - Do
You can't achieve anything without doing. Buy you can't do anything without listening, exploring, or analyzing the situation first. After you can optimize the entire LEAD, success will be in your grasp. Which also means that your AQ has improved.
The Troubled Painter
One day a famous painter is finishing his best paintings and plans to exhibit it at the time of Princess Diana's wedding. When he finished his painting he was very happy and kept looking at the picture. As he watched, he walked back and when he walked back he was not looking back. He kept walking backwards and behind him is the end of the building. It is very tall and with one more step he can end his life.
Someone at the sight intended to shout to warn the painter, but he didn't because he was afraid the painter would fall when he was surprised to hear his call. Then the person who saw the painter took up a brush and painted in front of the picture, damaged it. Of course, the painter got mad and walked forward to hit the person. But some people started facing there and showed the painter's position who almost fell.
Sometimes we describe our future with a very nice and beautiful dream. But sometimes, the plan could not be done because there is a bigger force who wants a different result. Know that even when our plans change, the final result will be better than our dream. So have faith!
Someone at the sight intended to shout to warn the painter, but he didn't because he was afraid the painter would fall when he was surprised to hear his call. Then the person who saw the painter took up a brush and painted in front of the picture, damaged it. Of course, the painter got mad and walked forward to hit the person. But some people started facing there and showed the painter's position who almost fell.
Sometimes we describe our future with a very nice and beautiful dream. But sometimes, the plan could not be done because there is a bigger force who wants a different result. Know that even when our plans change, the final result will be better than our dream. So have faith!
AQ 2 - CORE
Paul Stoltz divided AQ into 4 separate components. Which he believes to be the keys of measuring our AQ. He calls these 4 components as "CORE". What does "CORE" stands for? Let's find out!
1. C - Control
Describes how much we have control over our lives. Mahatma Ghandi for example, has high AQ because he had control of the situation. Ghandi believed he can solve problems in difficult situations.
2. O - Origin
Describes how much we understand the origin or cause of the situation. Also defines how much we acknowledge the problem. Those with low AQ blames themselves of not capable in handling the situation. After exaggerating, they couldn't do anything handle the situation.
3. R - Reach
Defines how far the problem has reached the other corners of our lives. For example, when your office computer brakes down, do you get frustrated and angry all day? That even other people got effected from your anger? If so, then you have a low AQ. Because of letting the problem effect the other parts of your life way too deep.
4. E - Endurance
Defines how long we predict the problem will last. Those with low AQ believes that the situation will never get better. Their pessimism convinced them to believe they'll always fail.
AQ is not something permanent. We can improve our AQ right now. Even though it takes time and patience, it's worth the wait.
1. C - Control
Describes how much we have control over our lives. Mahatma Ghandi for example, has high AQ because he had control of the situation. Ghandi believed he can solve problems in difficult situations.
2. O - Origin
Describes how much we understand the origin or cause of the situation. Also defines how much we acknowledge the problem. Those with low AQ blames themselves of not capable in handling the situation. After exaggerating, they couldn't do anything handle the situation.
3. R - Reach
Defines how far the problem has reached the other corners of our lives. For example, when your office computer brakes down, do you get frustrated and angry all day? That even other people got effected from your anger? If so, then you have a low AQ. Because of letting the problem effect the other parts of your life way too deep.
4. E - Endurance
Defines how long we predict the problem will last. Those with low AQ believes that the situation will never get better. Their pessimism convinced them to believe they'll always fail.
AQ is not something permanent. We can improve our AQ right now. Even though it takes time and patience, it's worth the wait.
AQ 1 - Adversity Quotient
This theory was developed by Paul Stoltz. Adversity quotient measures our intelligence when facing challenges or problems. AQ is how we endure when facing and solving problems. According to him, AQ bases the criteria for success.
Paul Stoltz sees 3 types of humans endurance. He describes them as 'hikers climbing a mountain.' The 3 types are :
1. Quitters
They refuse to take on challenges. Quitters are at the bottom of the mountain. They give up hiking from the very beginning.
- Takes the easy way out.
- Gives up without trying.
- Doesn't like taking risks. So they miss a lot of opportunities.
- Doesn't have clear goals.
- Little commitment when facing challenges.
- Simply work only to support living.
2. Campers
They are easily satisfied with their work or progress. Campers are at the middle of the mountain. They stop and camp half way through the top.
- Does little effort. Even though results might change with more effort.
- Easily satisfied.
- Only gets to the goal they wanted to achieve. Even though they could have done better.
- Takes small risks. Small risks earns small results. Whether its good or bad.
- Focused on the pleasure of what they achieved so far.
3. Climbers
They get to their goals against all odds. Beware that climbers are different from ambitious, more will be discussed later. Climbers are at the top mountain. They endure the hardship and climbs to the top.
- Does a lot of effort. They maximize the use of their abilities. So they get maximum results.
- Has high endurance when facing tough problems.
- Goes beyond the goal. They often surprise people with what they can accomplish.
- Takes risks. Knows how to differ useful risks from that doesn't.
- Not easily satisfied.
- Keeps trying.
- Huge commitments when facing problems.
Climbers are different from being ambitious. Being ambitious uses the method of reaching their goals whilst sacrificing those around them. Climbers gain success with the help of those around them, not by sacrificing them.
So, are you a climber?
Paul Stoltz sees 3 types of humans endurance. He describes them as 'hikers climbing a mountain.' The 3 types are :
1. Quitters
They refuse to take on challenges. Quitters are at the bottom of the mountain. They give up hiking from the very beginning.
- Takes the easy way out.
- Gives up without trying.
- Doesn't like taking risks. So they miss a lot of opportunities.
- Doesn't have clear goals.
- Little commitment when facing challenges.
- Simply work only to support living.
2. Campers
They are easily satisfied with their work or progress. Campers are at the middle of the mountain. They stop and camp half way through the top.
- Does little effort. Even though results might change with more effort.
- Easily satisfied.
- Only gets to the goal they wanted to achieve. Even though they could have done better.
- Takes small risks. Small risks earns small results. Whether its good or bad.
- Focused on the pleasure of what they achieved so far.
3. Climbers
They get to their goals against all odds. Beware that climbers are different from ambitious, more will be discussed later. Climbers are at the top mountain. They endure the hardship and climbs to the top.
- Does a lot of effort. They maximize the use of their abilities. So they get maximum results.
- Has high endurance when facing tough problems.
- Goes beyond the goal. They often surprise people with what they can accomplish.
- Takes risks. Knows how to differ useful risks from that doesn't.
- Not easily satisfied.
- Keeps trying.
- Huge commitments when facing problems.
Climbers are different from being ambitious. Being ambitious uses the method of reaching their goals whilst sacrificing those around them. Climbers gain success with the help of those around them, not by sacrificing them.
So, are you a climber?
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