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The Troubled Painter

One day a famous painter is finishing his best paintings and plans to exhibit it at the time of Princess Diana's wedding. When he finished his painting he was very happy and kept looking at the picture. As he watched, he walked back and when he walked back he was not looking back. He kept walking backwards and behind him is the end of the building. It is very tall and with one more step he can end his life.

Someone at the sight intended to shout to warn the painter, but he didn't because he was afraid the painter would fall when he was surprised to hear his call. Then the person who saw the painter took up a brush and painted in front of the picture, damaged it. Of course, the painter got mad and walked forward to hit the person. But some people started facing there and showed the painter's position who almost fell.

Sometimes we describe our future with a very nice and beautiful dream. But sometimes, the plan could not be done because there is a bigger force who wants a different result. Know that even when our plans change, the final result will be better than our dream. So have faith!


Paul Stoltz divided AQ into 4 separate components. Which he believes to be the keys of measuring our AQ. He calls these 4 components as "CORE". What does "CORE" stands for? Let's find out!

1. C - Control
Describes how much we have control over our lives. Mahatma Ghandi for example, has high AQ because he had control of the situation. Ghandi believed he can solve problems in difficult situations.

2. O - Origin
Describes how much we understand the origin or cause of the situation. Also defines how much we acknowledge the problem. Those with low AQ blames themselves of not capable in handling the situation. After exaggerating, they couldn't do anything handle the situation.

3. R - Reach
Defines how far the problem has reached the other corners of our lives. For example, when your office computer brakes down, do you get frustrated and angry all day? That even other people got effected from your anger? If so, then you have a low AQ. Because of letting the problem effect the other parts of your life way too deep.

4. E - Endurance
Defines how long we predict the problem will last. Those with low AQ believes that the situation will never get better. Their pessimism convinced them to believe they'll always fail.

AQ is not something permanent. We can improve our AQ right now. Even though it takes time and patience, it's worth the wait.

AQ 1 - Adversity Quotient

This theory was developed by Paul Stoltz. Adversity quotient measures our intelligence when facing challenges or problems. AQ is how we endure when facing and solving problems. According to him, AQ bases the criteria for success.

Paul Stoltz sees 3 types of humans endurance. He describes them as 'hikers climbing a mountain.' The 3 types are :

1. Quitters
They refuse to take on challenges. Quitters are at the bottom of the mountain. They give up hiking from the very beginning.
- Takes the easy way out.
- Gives up without trying.
- Doesn't like taking risks. So they miss a lot of opportunities.
- Doesn't have clear goals.
- Little commitment when facing challenges.
- Simply work only to support living.

2. Campers
They are easily satisfied with their work or progress. Campers are at the middle of the mountain. They stop and camp half way through the top.
- Does little effort. Even though results might change with more effort.
- Easily satisfied.
- Only gets to the goal they wanted to achieve. Even though they could have done better.
- Takes small risks. Small risks earns small results. Whether its good or bad.
- Focused on the pleasure of what they achieved so far.

3. Climbers
They get to their goals against all odds. Beware that climbers are different from ambitious, more will be discussed later. Climbers are at the top mountain. They endure the hardship and climbs to the top.
- Does a lot of effort. They maximize the use of their abilities. So they get maximum results.
- Has high endurance when facing tough problems.
- Goes beyond the goal. They often surprise people with what they can accomplish.
- Takes risks. Knows how to differ useful risks from that doesn't.
- Not easily satisfied.
- Keeps trying.
- Huge commitments when facing problems.

Climbers are different from being ambitious. Being ambitious uses the method of reaching their goals whilst sacrificing those around them. Climbers gain success with the help of those around them, not by sacrificing them.

So, are you a climber?

Do You Care?

By Imam B. Prasojo
Director of "Nurani Dunia" (World Conscience)
A foundation that serves for Indonesian children

We have seen our nation
turn into a land of suffering
natural disaster and never-ending quarrels

In every corner of the Archipelago
fires burn,
bullets explode,
floods and landslides reach out,
pushing their victims into the mud of suffering.

More than a million of people
have been driven from their villages.
The dirty tends are full of children,
women and old people.
They live in extraordinary misery.
A million people sit confused
wondering if their lives will never improve.

The future of hundreds of thousands of Indonesians
hangs in the balance.
They do not attend school.
Their teacher have vanished.
The buildings have been reduced to rubble.
Their trauma is endless.
Never ceasing disasters
destroy us, divide us,
and make us live in pain.

It is time
for every citizen
to show their love for equality.
We must lighten their suffering.
We must create a better life
for our fellow human beings...

Hours of Life

There is a story about animals who complains about their life. A fly complained: "I do not have much time. Can you imagine how to enjoy life this short. Born, grow, have fun, experience joy and sorrow, get old and die. Everything happened so quick in just a couple of hours . "

Donkey commented: "Indeed you are right, but I imagine how wonderful it is to have a short and smooth life, must be a lot of fun. Not like me who lives longer. But with continuous work, while you always have fun flying from one food to another. Life a short, but sweet. "

Turtles that looked at the donkey and the fly said: "I find it hard to understand you guys. I am now 300 years old and did not have much time to tell you my experiences. My experiences are too much. Back when I was 200 years old I I hope that life will soon be over. I envy you donkey and am sorry for you fly. "

Donkey immediately commented: "When I heard the explanation about the experiences you've got are so much, I think I have no objection to live 300 years. I imagine a good life because you have a chance to experience everything in life, having wealth and experience, being able to feel everything in a long time. "

After they finally stopped they seek advice from the spider, a wise teacher. Spiders advises them: "The tortoise, stop complaining. Who has lots of experience like you? Be thankful for your life. And you fly, stop complaining. Who could have so much fun as you? And you're a donkey, I can not give you any advice because you want a sweet short life and a long life with many experiences. It is not possible. You are a fool. "

Human beings in this world not so different as the story above. Sometimes we feel that time is so long and very long walk, especially when we are experiencing difficulties. However, we realize that time really passed by so quickly. It was not long ago we went to school, then graduate, working, continue to grow older and without noticing, time passes by so fast. We become people who can not be satisfied.

These days we have to learn through our days. Not how long we live, but how we live. Not what we feel, but how to fill our lives with meaningful things.

(Source: Strings of words of wisdom: Joint Communication Foundation, Facebook: Hands of God)